This morning I was so impressed that my husband unloaded the dishwasher without me even asking! We were doing the whole morning rush thing... showers, breakfast, packing bags and backpacks, feeding baby, etc. However, when I went to the kitchen to get my own breakfast, I was met by this curious mess on the counter. What's wrong with this picture? The dishes were moved from the dishwasher to the counter, but not into the cupboards. Maybe I was just in a ronchy (sp?) mood, but this made me even grumpier. (For those who may not know, I am not a morning person. I need at least an hour to wake up- and this morning I actually got up at 6am, so I should have been almost pleasant by this point...) Anyway, I used a lot of self-control and restrained myself from saying anything. I know that I am a nag but my husband is not really a neat and tidy kind of guy. I am used to picking up the wet towels from the floor, making the bed and putting the shoes that are left all over the house in the closet. But this, this I am not used to. I felt like it was meant to be a kind deed (hence the reason I used restraint) but didn't end up helping me b/c now the dishes that were clean inside the dishwasher are out on the counter, thus making the house look even MORE messy and chaotic than it already was. I do give my husband points for trying, but next time I hope he finishes the job. Baby steps, right?
Now, at this point I should tell you that my husband is excellent in many other areas. He will bathe the kids, put them to bed, feed the baby, change diapers, make dinner, fold laundry and many other helpful and wonderful things. I just found this attempt a bit amusing.
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I know what you mean...when I was younger I would help my mom with the laundry and would take the clothes out of the dryer, fold them and lay them on top...and then she would come and tell me (it would be nice if you placed the clothes in everyone's room). I thought she was ungrateful for my deed but now I understand what she meant! I am sure they mean well but sometimes it is not enough!
I definitely think you should give him the brownie points for trying. Andy does the same kinds of things when it comes to cleaning up. It even got to the point where he wouldn't do anything because he knew I would re-do it. I have tried very hard to let some things go.
I honestly think that, unless he has OCD, husbands (or men) have a different standard. Their definition of "clean" is not the same as ours.
At least Jared's heart was in the right place. Maybe he was planning on putting the dishes away, but just got caught up in the crazy morning. It is a little funny, though.
I am working on biting my tongue more too. Usually I say it before I think. Pretty funny though and I think we can all relate whether with the husbands or kids and sometimes I wonder myself why I do things half way.At least he saw something that needed to be done and "did it" (kind of).
My husband did this same thing a few weeks ago and I knew he did it because he isn't sure where I like everything to be. I hate when I can't find something when I am cooking- so in his own way, he was doing me a favor. I have learned that "his clean" doesn't have to be "my clean". I love when they do something that they know you will notice to help you out. Kudos to your hubby!
I am all too familiar with this scenario. We have lived in this house for nearly 8 years and Marc still doesn't know how to put everything away! Good grief. It's interesting, he is more thorough than I am on some tasks, I am more thorough than him on others. At least Jared was trying to help!
I'm not happy about this news and defintely think Jared should put the dishes away instead of on the cupboard, but whatever works.
Sometimes I think that men do house work poorly on purpose just so that we will say "Nevermind, I'll do it myself."
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